Nice guys finish last; all women’s fault?

Don’t worry, this isn’t a misogynist rant! …Well, it may be a rant. Just a little. 

Anyways, firstly on an unrelated note I have seen that my reader number (although never huge) has dropped off over the past few weeks, so I guess I shall have to find more frequent and interesting posts to write!

But yes, this post comes after several days of me bickering with people and feeling a bit sorry for myself. Not a good way to think up inspiration for a blog you may think, but surprisingly it has given me a few theories and ideas of why nice normal gentlemen like you and me sit here in the solitude of singledom (for all you out there who aren’t single, congratulations :D). And my overall conclusion is that guys have a pretty raw deal when it comes to women.

Why? Well, several reasons. Misrepresentation being the foremost one. How many times in the media or when overhearing your brokenhearted friend will you get the impression, “Wow, guys really are dicks.” You don’t see nearly as many stories on TV about women who beat their husbands, or a man desperately trying to make his relationship work while his other half treats him like a doormat (except maybe on British TV soaps, but they’ll probably make storylines out of anything). Even with real-life shows like Jeremy Kyle *shudder* or some 18-30 club rep documentary, the guys you see on there are indeed complete scumbags most of the time. But the problem is, it’s only guys like that who are so full of themselves (and most of the time drunk) that they will go on television and act like an idiot, whereas the nice, normal down-to-Earth gents have a bit more self-respect than that.

Anyway, I’m going off on a tangent. Point is, so far men are looking pretty bad. And yet at the same time, for some reason it’s the macho, self-important idiotic men who make men look bad that women always seem to go for. And then when they inevitably get their hearts broken by them, men look even more awful. It’s a vicious cycle. All the while, the nice guys are the ones who are left to pick up the pieces, forever stuck in the ‘friend zone’ and yet doing more for the women than their ‘bad-boy image’ boyfriends ever did. But the women never seem to notice these individuals, and therein lies the problem.

Now as we all know, women are impossible to understand. But I’m going to try to make a start for the sake of mankind. As far as I can tell, women seem to have a very close-minded view of men. It’s the stereotype you see all the time; we’re all lazy, unthoughtful, messy, and we all LOVE football. No. Just no. A lot of men (myself included) take pride in the fact we can clean our own houses, remember birthdays and anniversaries, know when we’ve said something wrong and try to make up for it. Oh, and I cannot stand football (soccer to some of you?). These kind of traits are something which women talk about like they’re the holy grail of men; if they’re intelligent, or clean, or have the ability to think for themselves. But at the same time, sorry girls, but most of you are pretty shallow.

How many times has a man been rejected or turned down because he’s too fat, too short, too skinny, too hairy, or something to that effect? A fair few. And sometimes, women aren’t even nice about it. So they shall never know the shining examples of manhood who fit perfectly into their self-proclaimed category of ‘not being like every other guy out there’.

So to all the nice guys out there I say this; you’re not alone, and keep trying. Maybe one day women will see the error of their ways, or you’ll meet a girl who isn’t typically mental.

And girls, if any of you are actually still reading this, take my advice. If you’re the kind of girl who is constantly getting your heart-broken by guys who treat you badly and take you for granted, try taking your guy-friend out for a date instead. You know the one…no, not the gay one. The guy who always offers to buy you a drink when you’re out of money, or will walk that bit further than he has to to make sure you get home safe. The one who is always there to give you a hug and a shoulder to cry on when some macho idiot breaks your heart. The one who in your eyes is a bit plain, or ‘is like a brother to you’. I can almost guarantee that he will treat you with the respect you deserve, and be incredibly grateful even if it goes nowhere and the two of you just stay friends. And you never know, he may just be a romantic and will ‘sweep you off your feet’.


About alexdunmyer

Just a British graduate with a lot of things on his mind.
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One Response to Nice guys finish last; all women’s fault?

  1. alexdunmyer says:

    As a VEEEERY delayed follow-up to this, I will also add that many people observe guys such as myself ranting in the ‘friend-zone’ debate are doing so purely because they want to get something out of it. It’s a fair point. But in defence, many of these long-term friends are probably out for love rather than some quick freaky-time, especially if they’ve been there with you through thick-and-thin for a number of years. Many of them just want a chance at girls seeing them as a potential date rather than just a friend. If they’re creepy and always making jokes about getting into your pants, they aren’t the men you’re looking for! 😀

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